Support for those bereaved by suicide

You do not have to cope with a suicide bereavement alone.

A death by suicide can be devastating for family members, friends, colleagues, classmates and communities. Grief can be intense and complex and may affect every aspect of life.

You may experience shock, sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, numbness or loneliness. There is no right or wrong way to feel, and your emotions may change from one day to the next.

Support is available immediately after a suicide and in the months and years that follow.

Looking after yourself

• Talk to someone you trust when you feel ready.
• Accept practical and emotional support from others.
• Look after basic needs such as food, rest and medication.
• Give yourself time and avoid putting pressure on yourself to grieve in a particular way.
• Contact your GP or a support service if you are struggling to cope.
• Seek urgent help if your grief is accompanied by thoughts of suicide or you feel unable to keep yourself safe.

Supporting a child or young person after a suicide

Children and young people often move in and out of grief. They may ask the same questions repeatedly, become withdrawn, show changes in behaviour or worry about the safety of people around them.

You can help by:

• using honest, clear and age-appropriate language.
• reassuring them that they can ask questions and talk about their feelings.
• maintaining routines where possible.
• informing their school, college or nursery so support can be put in place.
• seeking professional support if you are concerned about their wellbeing or safety.

Bereavement support

• Your GP: Contact your GP if grief is affecting your mental or physical health.
• Samaritans: Call 116 123 for free emotional support 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
• Cruse Bereavement Support: Provides information, advice and support for people who have been bereaved.
• Support After Suicide Partnership: Offers information and links to organisations supporting people affected by suicide.
• Amparo: Call 0330 088 9255 for confidential, personalised support following a suicide bereavement.
• NHS 111: Select the mental health option if you need urgent mental health support.